The best free way to meet bisexual people, or partners who are genuinely comfortable dating someone bi, is a site where you can say you are bi without it being read as an invitation or a phase. On Souldaters you join the bisexual tribe, which signals your identity clearly and boosts compatibility with members who share or welcome it, and nobody can message you until you have both liked each other.
Bisexual people make up a large share of the LGBTQ+ community, yet many describe feeling slightly out of place in both straight and queer dating spaces. Common experiences include being asked to "prove" it, being assumed to be interested in threesomes, or having an identity erased the moment you date someone of a particular gender. You deserve a dating space where none of that is the starting point.
How to date as a bi person on Souldaters
- Set your orientation honestly and choose to see women, men, non-binary people, or everyone. It's your call and it's free.
- Join the bisexual tribe so it shows on your profile and counts toward your soul-match score with people who share it.
- Use mutual match to filter out bad-faith interest. Since chat only opens when you like someone back, unsolicited "are you up for a threesome" messages can't reach you.
- Report fetishizing behavior. Block and report are on every profile, and reports are read by a human.
Community, not just matches
Being bi can be surprisingly isolating, especially if your current or past partners have been of one gender and people make assumptions. The tribe board is a place to talk with others who get it, and friends mode lets you find bi friends without any romantic expectation. Many members also join the broader LGBTQ+ tribe, and some are part of the polyamory tribe as well; bisexuality and polyamory are separate things, and you can join one, both or neither.
If you are dating for the first time since coming out, or wondering how to bring up your identity with a match, our LGBTQ+ dating guide has practical advice, and the red flags and green flags guide will help you spot who is actually a good fit.
Why Souldaters for Bisexual
Free dealbreaker filters
Switch on "Only people who share a tribe with me" in Discover β no upgrade needed.
Match first, then chat
Nobody can message you until you both like each other. No unsolicited messages, no inbox floods.
Compatibility that explains itself
Sharing the Bisexual tribe lifts your soul-match score, and you see plain-language reasons like "3 shared tribes".
A tribe board to talk on
Post questions, meetup ideas and recommendations on the Bisexual discussion board.
Dating, friends or both
Looking for a partner, a friend or an activity buddy? Choose your intent; friend matches work the same mutual way.
100% free
No premium tier, no paywall, no paid boosts. Seeing who liked you is free too.
Some members of the Bisexual tribe
Only members who chose to appear publicly are shown. Full profiles are visible to logged-in members only.
Bisexual discussion
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Tips for the Bisexual tribe
- Mention your identity in your own words in a prompt; it filters out people who would be awkward about it.
- Watch for early red flags such as questions about threesomes or "which do you prefer"; unmatch freely.
- Choose who you see in Discover based on what you want now, and change it whenever you like.
- Join the bisexual tribe and at least one hobby tribe so matches have more than your orientation to talk about.
- Use friends mode to build a bi-inclusive friend circle; it makes the dating side feel less high-stakes.
Date ideas for the Bisexual tribe
- Attend a Bi Visibility Day event in September and grab a drink after
- Try a board game cafΓ© and pick a co-operative game
- Go to a comedy night featuring LGBTQ+ comedians
- Take a street-food market crawl, sharing small plates
- Rent a rowing boat or pedal boat on a city lake
- Visit a botanical garden and pick each other's favorite plant
Profile prompt examples
Souldaters profiles have three prompts. A few examples to spark your own:
Green flags I look for⦠you're curious about me, not about my orientation as a party trick.
Something I'm learning right now⦠Spanish, badly, with lots of enthusiasm.
We'll get along if⦠you think a good playlist is a love language.
Bisexual tribe FAQ
What is the best free dating app for bisexual people?
Look for an app that lets you set your orientation and choose who you see, has a bi community you can filter by, and stops unsolicited messages. Souldaters is free, has a bisexual tribe, lets you see women, men, non-binary people or everyone, and only allows chat after a mutual like, which reduces fetishizing messages significantly.
Can I date both men and women on Souldaters?
Yes. You set who you want to see in Discover, and you can include any combination of women, men and non-binary people. You can change this anytime. Your profile can also show your orientation and the bisexual tribe, so matches know who you are from the start.
How do I avoid unicorn hunters and fetishizing matches?
Mutual match before messaging is the first line of defense: nobody can write to you unless you have liked them. Read profiles carefully, and if a match's first questions are about threesomes or your sexual history, unmatch; that closes the chat permanently. Report accounts that are clearly fishing, and a human moderator will review them.
Is Souldaters only for dating?
No. You can choose dating, friends only, or both. Friends mode works with waves instead of likes and still requires both people to opt in. Bi members often use it to find community, and the bisexual tribe board is open for discussion and meetups.